“Most Christian leadership is exercised by people who do not know how to develop healthy, intimate relationships and have opted for power and control instead. Many Christian empire-builders have been people unable to give and receive love.” – Henri Nouwen
Not a day goes by when we don’t hear about some leader’s fall from grace. No one, no matter their position in any organization, is above the allure of power, prestige, position, and privilege. There is nothing more crucial than character, but we don’t develop and maintain character all on our own.
One of the reasons I believe so much in the power of teams and collaboration is that healthy teams offer safety through mutual accountability in the context of love, fun, and great joy.
So, who is on your team to support, encourage, challenge, and correct you?
Gordon MacDonald has offered 10 questions to help identify those people in our lives:
- Who coaches and mentors you?
- Who celebrates landmarks in your life journey? Who helps show you where your journey is headed?
- Who stretches your mind and makes you wrestle with questions you wish to avoid?
- Who listens to your dreams?
- Who protects you and shows you mercy?
- Who offers you wise counsel and reliable judgment?
- Who serves with you?
- Who rebukes you?
- Who has fun with you?
- Who seeks God with you?
Of course, it’s important to not just have people close to us who do one or two of these things (such as protect you or have fun with you). Instead, we need to have a few people close enough to us who do all these things in our lives.
When you think of your personal support team, what’s missing?
As I review the list, I know I need to re-cultivate some relationships. I can’t do it on my own. Neither can you!
Take some time this coming week to build your personal support team!
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